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7 Thumbs and 1 Bird

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I have a cool car. It hasn't always been that way. My first car was a brown Pinto with orange interior. Once it stopped moving forward (reverse still worked), I got another brown Pinto. When that one exploded, I "upgraded" to a $500 puke yellow Ford Fairmont called "Bingo." My wife named the car because it looked like what my blue haired grandma should take to play bingo at church on Thursdays.

Cars are my kryptonite. I am pretty conservative with money, but there is something deep within me that loves cars and causes me to open my wallet. I love how they sound, the lines, and the hum of the engine.

In the past 5-10 years I have had some cool cars. This last one however surprised me because it attracts attention.  And the most interesting thing is the specific type of attention it attracts.

As I roll down the road, people will pull up beside me, roll down their window, and give me a hand gesture. It happens frequently enough that I started keeping track. I get about 7 "thumbs up" for every 1 "bird."

The interesting thing is this has nothing to do with my driving. After I received my first bird I did a self-check. I wasn't on the phone, not slowing up the fast lane, and I was squarely in the center of my lane. After about 10 birds I realized I was being flipped off solely because I had a cool car ... and he (it’s always a “he” by the way) did not.

I was almost offended. These people do not know me. They do not know the sacrifices I had to make to win financially. They didn't know all the bad jobs I took and the crap I had to drive to work my way up the car food chain. They don't know that we tithe, and generously give back. I work very hard not to judge, so I get irritated by such a rush to judgment.

Just when I begin to turn pessimistic however, I get a thumbs up. And then another, and another.

What is the difference? Why do two different people see the exact same thing and have such polar opposite reactions?

The guy who flips me off suffers from jealousy or envy; two of the biggest OolaBlockers out there. They see opportunity as finite. Meaning if I have a Maserati, they can't have one, because I have “theirs.”

The guy who tosses out the "thumbs up" does not suffer from jealously or envy. They may simply like the car, or the car may even serve as a tangible example of what is possible.

Jealousy and envy are evil.  Feeling waves of these emotions is very normal, however if these OolaBlockers live and persist inside of you they will take you down. Whether it is a friend with a beautiful family, a co-worker who gets the promotion, the girl with the perfect figure, or the dude with the cool car ... when you feel a tinge of jealousy or envy, let it pass right through and serve as inspiration as to what is possible.

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Co-Author of "Oola: Find Balance in an Unbalanced World." Why listen to the OolaGuru? Need some street cred? Believe in "show me, don't tell me?" Some highlights:
OolaFitness: Ironman
OolaFinance: Completely debt and financially free by age 40
OolaFamily: Married 20+ years to his kindergarten classmate, 4 beautiful kids
OolaField: Formally retired at age 42. Now does only what he wants only when he wants to be
OolaFaith: Yet not the man he wants to be, but grateful he is not the man he used to be
OolaFriends: Let's just say he is networked
OolaFun: Travel is his passion. 53 countries and counting . . .